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It is interesting, the  way we behave in a given situation. We unknowingly become  the focus  of others’  attention owing to that in some instances. Have you ever noticed those people who  relentlessly chat  away on their phones in confined public spaces such as lifts, buses, etc. , with complete disregard for the people around?  In fact, they are so engrossed in their conversations that they are completely absolved from the disdainful look of the others in the vicinity.  If you are one of the unfortunate witnesses to such a verbal barrage, you would instantly connect to the feeling of fury that crouches under your skin after the first few minutes, no matter how hard you try to suppress it. Strangely, the annoyance is not because you are being disturbed, but because your attention is uncontrollably drawn to the conversation. It is as if a propaganda speech has finally managed to overpower you. It seems as if, the claws of that irrelevant conversation are too sharp and strong to wrench yourself free from! It is this defeat within yourself that pushes your anger buttons. Nothing wrong in it. If you do intervene, to put an end to this, you become the savior and the rogue simultaneously while others gain at your expense; people are, on one side, simply amused by your outburst  and on the other side glad that you have helped stop the torment of mindless chatter.  This is what I would call worthless attention. Any others you know of?!

Do we always know why we feel the way we feel? I am not pointing at a scientific perspective here. What I am asking is this, when you feel sad – Do you know why? When you are angry at someone – do you know why? Well, if you know, how long does it take you to accept it?

For example, there are times when we feel sullen or angry and we can’t put our finger on why? This annoys us a lot, because this tells us that we don’t have a control over our emotions. “I can’t control how I feel” Then suddenly out of nowhere, one fine moment, we strike gold! The reason is clear to us. We move on by taking a call on that so that we are no longer burdened. 

I just realized how important it is to identify the cause for the way we feel, if we want to keep ourselves grounded. Elation or despair both can get us carried away. Especially at those times when we feel low, it would do us good to ask ourselves, “Why am I feeling this way?” “What is the cause for my state of despair or anger?” “What can I do to rectify this?”

I think, being emotional balanced has three aspects to it:

 . Knowing the ‘why’. Accepting the ‘why’. Acting on this knowledge

Life throws up so many surprises that you are bound to look back and say, “That was an experience I won’t forget” Not all surprises are pleasant, there are unpleasant ones also which leave a bitter taste behind. Well, if it weren’t for these bitter sweet experiences we wouldn’t be able to distinguish one from the other. Its prudent take the bitter experiences in your stride and move on to sweeten your life as well as of those who come in touch with you. That’s the way to live.